Who Do you Love?

One of the most common questions I am asked as a numerologist has to be, “How can I tell if we are *soulmates* or not?” This is actually my favorite subject as well since relationships are the most powerful way we have available to get to know, develop and evolve ourselves in life.

What I usually tell people who ask me about this, is “your Soul will never lead you astray.” All relationships are fruitful in that they cannot help but lead to growth, whether it be through pain or through pleasure. All relationships are “successful” no matter their duration or their outcome, for they led you to where you are today and helped to create foundations of strength, confidence and clarity which gave birth to the desire necessary for you to attract to yourself the relationship your Soul desires.

All relationships are vehicles for the most important relationship, the one with ourselves. We’ve all heard over and over those sayings, “You can only love another as much as you can love yourself.” and “As soon as you no longer “NEED” a relationship, one will appear.” Yeah, yeah, yeah we say… Well, it’s true! It’s actually a very real dynamic, that the more attention we pay to our selves, and by this I mean, finding out what we want and why, who we are and where we’re going, the more “vivid” or noticeable we become to others! The power of attention brings clarity and makes things seem more “real” and therefore more visible, concrete and “knowable” to those around us. This has long been a key “secret” passed down by the ancients for manifesting anything in our lives and it’s the exact same phenomenon in play when we hear, “what you fear, you attract” and “self-fulfilling prophecy” etc…

But what exactly determines what we are looking for in another? It it our opposite? Our “Anima/Animus”? A best friend? Our PARENTS?? The fact that we can even name this many possibilities shows that they are common motivations and that there are as many types of relationships as there are combinations of people. But there is a way, through numerology to understand what motivates YOU and what is motivating your lover. This is found in the Soul Urge. In this article I will talk about the Soul Urge number in relationships (yours can be found by getting your free numerology report here at iDivine.) as well as address the many types of relationships our numbers lead us into.

Who Your Soul Desires

Relationship numerology is a complex study. There are several aspects to look at, combine and analyze to get an accurate picture of the true dynamics behind each relationship. The Expression, the Soul Urge and the Personality of each person interact and it can sometimes seem as though 6 people were involved! Each of these aspects is said to govern a period of time in a relationship. The Personality comparison gives insight into the initial attraction and the early beginnings of the relationship. This makes sense because it is usually appearances and personality that create the initial attraction. If this is the only compatible number, the relationship often dissolves at the point of “transition” into deeper commitment. This time period is governed by the Soul Urge comparisons. The Soul Urge is the determining factor for every relationship. “The Soul will never lead you astray” we either follow it’s lead or create disharmony and dis-ease in our lives. The Longevity of the relationship can be looked at by comparing the dynamics of the Expression numbers and this number also describes the basic “flavor” or the relationship, day to day, over the long haul.

The Soul Urge, much like the “descendant” or the 7th house in the astrological chart, describes the type of person our soul is looking for to complete itself and guess what!? It’s this same number that tells us about our own “true essence” our secret self, and sometimes it describes the aspects of ourselves we deny or project onto our mate for expression. The Soul Urge is our “emotional body” in numerology and it is this body that seeks it’s perfect complement in love. It’s for this reason that I say, get to know (become like) your own soul and you will automatically attract it’s perfect match! I have outlined some general characteristics of each Soul Urge below from the perspective of “Who Your Soul Desires.” Remember that these are describing the type of person your Soul desires and is only a piece of the “pie”. In numerology, as well as in any study of human behavior, you have to be able to blend various aspects in your mind in order to get an accurate picture of the whole person. Keep in mind that there are many dynamics that come into play in the world of relationships. Read the number of your Expression, Persona and Life Path as well because in real life, all four are working together to create who you are and whom you attract. At different times in our lives, our tastes may change. Our Current Name reflects these changes and they can be seen in the tables if you look up your Current Name’s numbers as well. *Read the description for the birth day digit of any person (if a double digit, read each of the single digits as well as the digit they make if you add them together) to get a quick picture of what they’re like.

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Read the descriptions below for all of your personal numbers, (Expression, Soul Urge, Personality and Destiny) and see how all four describe an aspect of your perfect mate.
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Number 1 Soul Urge

Fire is the spice of life! You want a lover who stands out in a crowd. A leader, an innovator or a President will do. You like em’ buff and active and courageous and fearless. You will know it’s them by the way they take what they want. The almost aggressive way they approach you when you first meet – making you take notice! Honesty is #1. You can depend on them to be truthful, even though it may scrape at times. This person is the essence of creativity and self assertion.

Number 2 Soul Urge

You like them soft, lovey dovey even. Male or female, they must be pretty to look at (long hair on men is so sexy!) and eager to listen to you. They are the epitome of compassion and empathy and are really truly romantic. You will know them by their voice and the way it caresses your ears. The eyes will be the tell-tale sign though – they will have familiar eyes, like those eyes you see in your minds eye! They are loyal, stable and kind to animals.

Number 3 Soul Urge

Fun! fun! fun! and good lookin’ too! Your perfect one is a vision to behold, a super-model a Venus de Milo, a movie star… Everybody else should think so too. You will know them by their laugh – it will tickle one in you. They make you feel GOOD. They’re born communicators, talk talk talk, and you could listen to them for hours. They’re flirty, playful and spirited. They remind you of who you are.

Number 4 Soul Urge

The Rock of Gibraltar, steady, strong and effective. They’re earthy and grounded and “real”. No nonsense is their middle name. You can count on them to bring stability to your life. Order, morals and commitment as well. They will be “master of their fate” and physically self-aware. You will recognize the durability in their eyes.

Number 5 Soul Urge

Go to the bookstore! You will find them there, engrossed in a travel guide or a metaphysical book. No, not that one sitting in the corner chair, the other one over there, standing so they can quickly move on to the next subject. Your true love is an information lover and an explorer to the core. There’s an unmistakable sex appeal to that voracious appetite for experience. They’re adventurers, they’ll try anything once and they’ll take you on the wildest ride of your life.

Number 6 Soul Urge

In their arms, the world goes away. Your love is the nurturing type. Patient, kind, and compassionate. Children bloom in their presence and your “inner child” will do the same. Their family means the world to them and they will take you into their nest and call you their own before they get your last name. You’ll know they’re “the one” after the first home cooked meal.

Number 7 Soul Urge

You may meet them at the record store as you both reach for the same *Enigma* CD. All at once you’ll know what they knew the minute they saw you walk in the store as they watched you while remaining safely tucked behind their invisibility shield from where they observe all of the meaningful events in their lives. They’re not easy to know – a mystery, but this is part of the attraction. Once they fix their piercing attention on you though – you will find nowhere to hide. Their silence speaks volumes.

Number 8 Soul Urge

There’s something about powerful, influential people that’s a real turn on for you. Your perfect mate is a manifestor extroidinaire a mover and a shaker. Their confidence, vitality and strength exudes from their presence and they command respect no matter their station in life. Abundance follows them around and they like nothing better than showering it all over you. They love constant admiration and will reward you dearly for it.

Number 9 Soul Urge

Regal, sophisticated and benevolent is the air your lover has. They seem as though they stepped out of a time machine, from somewhere during the middle ages or from King Arthur’s court. There’s a sweet confidence, a selfless wisdom that shines in their eyes and you feel that they really do “know”. Their generosity expands to everyone and anyone who enters their environment, for why else would they have come? They believe in a deeper meaning, a Higher Love and a perfect world just a hairs breadth away.

Number 11 Soul Urge

Blend #1 and #2 plus supersonic divine inspiration and you’ll understand why they’re so hard to find! If only Jesus would return.. 🙂

Number 22 Soul Urge

Blend #2 and #4 and add intensity, a sense of a “mission” and philanthropic aims.

Number 33 Soul Urge

Blend #3 and #6 and add a mystical quality and a sort of supernatural “protection” – a direct line to God’s private quarters.


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I have been here before,
But when or how I cannot tell:
I know the grass beyond the door,
The sweet keen smell,
The sighing sound, the lights around the shore.

You have been mine before,–
How long ago I may not know:
But just when at that swallow’s soar
Your neck turn’d so,
Some veil did fall,–I knew it all of yore.

Has this been thus before?
And shall not thus time’s eddying flight
Still with our lives our love restore
In death’s despite,
And day and night yield one delight once more.

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