Surname – Should I take my husband’s surname at marriage?

Q: I am getting married on July 17th and have been trying to decide whether or not I should change my surname, I have several reports but would like some advice in general. I would appreciate any help you can give me.

A: Changing your name can alter your life-attractions for better or for worse (as they say). If you like the way you feel and the way your life is going, I would not change my name. But if you have checked out your ‘new’ potential name on NumberQuest and it sounds very good to you – that is, you would love to be that person, then it may be something that your inner-being is choosing to ‘grow’ into and this marriage is a way to incorporate these new traits into your make-up.

Remember that there’s absolutely nothing wrong with not taking on your husband’s name and in fact it can be a real way to draw out the best in the relationship because you have not symbolically merged your ‘self’ into his. There is plenty of merging that still goes on, and symbolically trading your family name for his is a very old tradition which still has a profound and very ‘real’ consequence.

Your last name (surname) represents your family ‘inheritance’ – all of the talents and traits bestowed upon you from your family lineage. The US is a patriarchal society so only the father’s lineage is valued, however, in the Native American society the mother’s lineage is most highly valued. Many other societies use both parent’s family names. Keep in mind that by taking on your husband’s family name you are taking on his family ‘karma’. In other words, you will also have access to his family vibration of success or failure and while this won’t be strong enough to blank out your birth name vibration, it can attract experiences and ‘thought patterns’ (attitudes) that you may or may not want to claim as your own. So, I’d look into that for sure and in the same way, see if your own family ‘attitudes’ are something you want to keep around! Hyphenating both names is another option.

Nicknames – If someone has altered their name

Q: If someone has altered their name, for example Tim to Timo or Rachelle to Shelle, should you also figure the changed name as an added influence? If so, would you just do the changed first name, or would you recalculate the whole name?

A: In the case of the “current name” report, you would calculate your whole “current name” – first and last as you use it in everyday life, or how you normally introduce yourself. i.e.: “Shelle Smith”. If you always use a middle name for everyday use too, as in “Shelle Belle Smith”, you would calculate that in there too.

My birth certificate says “Baby Girl”

Q: My entire first, middle, and last name has been changed to something different from my name on my birth certificate. Actually, the name on my original birth certificate is “Baby Girl Hawkins” because I was adopted. I was then named by my adoptive parents, and I then changed my name completely at the age of 23. I do feel that my life is different now after the name change, so I am wondering if I shouldn’t use my current name for a numerology reading, and if not, which do I consider my birth certificate name? I would like to find this out before I order a synergy report.

A: As outrageous as it might sound, your ‘Birth Certificate’ name is “Baby Girl Hawkins”. This is the official name that you arrived on this planet to.. So you would read that description to find out about the original ‘you’ – which plays on, however silently, under the currents of your outer life. Your Birth Name will always have it’s effect on you no matter how many times you change your name. In the case of someone adopted very near to birth, I would weigh the adopted name as next in importance. Adopted names, nicknames, married names and intentionally changed names all have a powerful effect on ‘how your life plays out’ and how you grow and develop through life. Your adopted name would show you what talents and traits were being called out of you and developed in order to get you through that portion of life. When you changed your name at 23 (a powerful number of ‘change’ in itself) you were actually giving birth to a ‘new you’ – a totally new set of traits that would in turn, attract the experiences of your life from then forward. Interestingly, any time a name is ‘legally’ changed, as in: adoption, marriage or legally changing your name yourself, it holds a more powerful energy than if you just begin to use a different name. I’m not sure why that is, except for maybe it’s deemed to be ‘recognized’ by a “Higher Power” (at least in society – recognized by the Governing power) if it’s a ‘legal’ act. As below, so above? So I believe that all names are important to look at and understand, but the actual ‘Birth Certificate Name’ is the only name that will give you your ‘Core’ essence numbers and it’s the name I use initially for my Soul Mate Synergy reports. I compare the deepest selves of each to find the deeper connections drawing them together. Many people also get a report using their current names too and that tells them a lot more about their ‘day-to-day’ compatibility. If you have more number-synergy with a person using your current names, for example than your Birth Names, that is telling you that you have a relationship that is based more upon the outer expression of your developed social personalities that you have developed throughout life and this type of connection is obviously not as ‘soul-stirring’ as if you shared synergy between your Birth Names. “Nurture vs Nature” so to speak. Both are important and play a key role in all relationships.

Should I use my adopted name or my birth name?

Q: I am adopted – but I know my real name given to me at birth. Is it more appropriate to use that name – or the name my adoptive parents gave me and that I grew up with? I was only about 2 months old when my adoptive parents got me. My intuitive sense told me to use the name I was born with – even if it was for only 2 months? Any thoughts? Thanks so much.- N.P.  PS: Using (birth name) seemed pretty accurate – as far as an analysis of who I am .

A: You are right. Your birth name is the most accurate name to use. It defines the tools and talents you have innately as well as the types of people and experiences you are likely to attract. Your adopted name is important too, as an overlay of additional vibrations that can assist you in life. I also have an adopted last name. It’s much the same as a married name in that it’s important as an indication of what I’m choosing to learn and what aspects of my essential nature are being emphasized with the use of this new name.

More about name changes:

The birth name, represents the “original blueprint” for you in life. Much valuable information can be derived from it. The adopted name represents a sort of “overlay” of vibrational influence which your soul chose to *amend* your original blueprint. So an adoptee benefits both from the genetic contribution of the birth parents and the special addition of the adoptive parent’s influences. I have met people who’s birth name was very “earthly” – that is, very focused on day-to-day life, who’s adopted name had a very spiritual-mindedness and focus. This naturally would create friction due to the contrast but eventually creates a deeply compassionate individual, able to be rooted in the earth and understand pain, while also being aware of the spiritual “big picture” and the evolutionary process. The reversal can happen too of course, and the adopted name is the kite string that grounds the too higher-minded individual (this was the case for me and my adoptive father’s contribution.)

If a person does not know their birth name, or if they were adopted “nameless”, this is perfect for their life-process as well. It’s not mandatory that you know the birth name, just important if you do ? It works in a similar way for people who change their names by choice or through marriage, though the influences will take time to be felt. You have had your adopted name most of your life so it’s effects will seem prominent and your birth name attributes will be felt as an underlying theme of either hidden desires or areas of resistance and denial… That part only you can determine and work with if you wish.

Which Name is Really “Me”?

Q: Which name is really “me”? I’ve gone by my shortened name for 35 years and have never gone by my birth name. It seems like the shorter name my family and friends call me would define me more than the name I never even used. I like the way my birth name is described in my reading though. Both names feel like me. Help!

A: Your full name at birth is the name that holds all of the juicy information about who you are, your “essence”, what you’re doing here, how your aptitudes are balanced etc… Whereas your changed or shortened names tell you about qualities and talents you needed to develop to round out your birth name and very often to make up for any missing vibrations not included in your Birth Name. Ideally, a modified name also supports our Life Path. Modified names define qualities, people and experiences you are attracting into your daily experience. You can look at what was going on in the past by analyzing a past nic name or shortened or married name as well. You are correct, the longer you use a name, the stronger the name will effect your overall life.



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